Each day, I go down a narrow pathway to the beach and walk along the sand and around the rock pathway to the next beach. That is my daily exercise. On one particular sunny day, I was returning from the beach along the path when I saw an elderly lady sitting bent over on the ground. I hurried up the slope to her and asked if I could help. She lifted her head, and I saw blood above her eye, so I asked if she needed a doctor or an ambulance. She shook her head in silence and struggled to get up. I went to help her, and she shook me off but wobbled and started to topple over again, so I grabbed her. She reluctantly let me help her to her feet but she was very unsteady, and so I placed my arm around her for support as we made our way up the path to the main road. I asked which way was home and she nodded her head in one direction so we set off. After a few metres, she pushed my hand off her waist, leaving me holding her other elbow. A few paces more and she shook that off too and set off on her own in a very wobbly state. I followed for a bit, but she turned back and frowned at me, so I stopped. When she was out of sight around the next corner I went home. She not only didn’t thank me for my help but she never uttered a word at all despite my keeping up a quiet dialogue of reassurance. 

Why is it so hard for most people to accept help?

People will hurt and exhaust themselves and end up in pain for days rather than ask or accept help.

Do they feel is it an admission of weakness, that they are giving up their independence?

We are social beings who need to interact and help each other in order to survive. We are pack animals, and wild animals that leave or get kicked out of the pack don’t survive for long. Co-operation is key. Have you ever watched a pack of wolves move in for the kill? It is intelligence, instinct, grace and co-operation in motion.

Thinking that accepting help is a weakness can be very ingrained in people and hard to overcome. You have to be honest with yourself and consider the consequences of not getting help. If you did this and listed the things that can go wrong and who else will be hurt if you don’t get help would perhaps make you swallow your false pride and move forward.

If your challenge is irritable bowel syndrome, then stop struggling by yourself and get help. You know that your stubbornness and need to succeed alone is not only hurting you in countless ways, but also those nearest and dearest to you – your spouse, your kids, your friends.

It’s such a downer to spend time with someone who is permanently below par. Even if you can’t do it for yourself, do it for them. Seek support. Especially since there is an answer and suffering with IBS symptoms is plain ridiculous.

How can I help you?

The cart for the Low Fodmap Diet Formula Workshop closes in 3 days.

Meanwhile I am putting on a free webinar in a few days on 7th June at 5pm US EST about the:

This diet involves a lot more than just a list of foods you can eat and, without understanding all the ins and outs of this diet as well as other contributing factors to your IBS, you will almost certainly fail.

If you have already joined the workshop HERE, then this webinar will give you a head start but there’s no way, as hard as I may try, that I can give you everything you need as an individual in an hour presentation. The Low Fodmap Diet Formula Workshop will give you the detailed information, support and results you crave. But the webinar is a great place to start.

This webinar will cover the six areas that are usually overlooked when you try to implement the low Fodmap diet. It’s a given that you will have found a list of foods on the internet – hopefully from a reputable site – but what about how to use the list and what about the rest that can’t be put into a list?

That’s where this free webinar comes in.

Go HERE to get all the details and to register.

Meanwhile, make sure you get into the Low Fodmap Diet Formula Workshop while the cart is still open. I won’t be doing this again until near the end of the year.